Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. Proverbs 29:18
The Completing Him Challenge is moving right along! We've shared over the summer about our beginnings, the importance of wedding vows, prayer, priorities, admiration and food! Today the challenge is "Following His Vision". The challenge this week is to:
- Support his vision.
- Discuss his vision for your family.
- Where does he see your family in 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years.
- Share with us how you let your husband lead.
Vision is one of those words that kind of scare me! I'm more comfortable doing things in the moment. Planning ahead some is ok, but setting goals and having a vision tend to make me nervous. Perhaps it is the uncertainty of them, what if I fail in my goal, what if I make the wrong choice, and I can't see in the future and can't be in control of what will happen.
But it has been said that "If you aim for nothing, you will reach it every time." Goals and visions give something higher to reach for. They provide opportunities to strengthen our faith, to trust deeper in the Lord and to follow His plan for our lives.
As only God can do, he allowed me to be married to a man with purpose, vision and the ability to look ahead and make preparations for the future. In our earlier years, I would be planning nursery decorations, while he was planning to set up college funds. While I was taking our young children to the park and filled our days with fun, he was setting up saving accounts for their future. With his planning and vision, our boys are blessed with the benefits of a good start into their adult lives.
Some of our goals for our children is for them to be responsible, ethical and able to lead their families with godliness, character and integrity one day. This takes training... a lot of training! As a mother, my "training" consists of what I know as a woman - nurturing, cuddling, meeting their needs and sheltering them from harm. But, as my husband reminds me "we are not raising girls, but men!" That reminder helps me to focus and to follow his leadership as the man of the house and head of our family. In their daily lives, the boys would meet training challenges and opportunities to grow and try new adventures such as mowing the grass on their own, driving their own vehicles, changing their oil, weed eating, chopping wood. These and other things that would cause me to worry about their safety, but my husband would reassure me they would be ok, and they would come out stronger and more equipped to handle these tasks on their own. To grow into men, they must practice "men stuff", which I am surely not qualified to teach! What a blessing to defer the training for their future into the capable hands of my vision minded husband. What an injustice it would be to send them out into the world unprepared because of my own fears.
Vision, planning and preparation are vital aspects of a marriage. Communication for them are needed. In a marriage we each bring in a set of expectations, hopes,dreams, gifts and abilities. Something beautiful comes to life when these are combined with seeking the Lord for His direction and following His path for our marriage and family. Blessings are abundant and a beautiful legacy can be formed for generations to come.