The weekly challenge from Completing Him is to make a list of 5 things you currently do and ask your husband to prioritize them for you of what is important to him. Things like this always make me squirm a little! But communication is so important and every now again we may need a reminder as to what is important to one another.
Several years ago I worked myself so hard tryng to please my husband. I kept the house spotless, kept up with the laundry, was always busy "doing" something for him. That was how I showed him that I loved him. But instead of being grateful for all that I was doing, he would become agitated that I wouldn't sit down and relax. How could I? I was too busy showing my love for him!!
Somehow I got a hold of the book "The Five Love Languages". This book does a wonderful job of showing how different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. Others may never speak their affection, yet they show it by the things they do. By leaning each other's love languages, you can learn to give and receive love more effectively.
It turns out that my love language is acts of service. If you want to get on my good side.. do the dishes for me!!! But my husbands feel loved what I simply spend quality time with him. Sitting quietly with him speaks volumes of love to him. It took some adapting, but the effort is worth while when his love tank is full and he is confident in feeling secure in my love.
So for the assignment this week I'll run some things by him and see what means the most to him. A little priority assessment is always a good thing! Marriage is all about give and take and taking in account the other's feelings. But unity and striving toward the same things bring a beauty into the marriage and the home.