Sunday, August 1, 2010

Completing Him With Respect

R-E-S-P-E-C-T! No complaining, criticizing, rolling your eyes, nagging, or giving him any friction this week. Enjoy a week of peace in your home!

That is this week's Completing Him Challenge.  Men don't just like respect, but thrive on it.  In Ephesians, Paul shares some guidelines for marriage "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."  Love and respect are a foundation for a healthy marriage. 
Most wives know how much men need respect, but through the stresses and routine of daily life, respect doesn't rise up and shine out.  The list above of avoiding complaining, criticizing, nagging etc. is a great place to start.  Sometimes the best response is not giving one!  But in addition, we can take this up a notch and give him some undivided attention.  Small actions can have big meanings.  Actions such as:
  • Looking at him fully when he is talking
  • Focus on listening to what he is saying while he is talking
  • Asking and genuinely caring how his day went
  • Taking time and effort to make his favorite foods
  • Giving him affection through the day
  • Cheerfully doing the things that he wants to do
  • Making him a priority

Paying close attention to his needs and putting him first in the home builds him up and helps him to be the man and leader he is called to be. It is so easy to put him off when the children are talking, or to answer him half hearted, listen half-way when life is screaming for our attention.  Deliberate choices to honor him set a pattern of respect in the home that will not only bless the marriage, but build a legacy for our girls and boys to cling to and establish for future generations. 

Remember this week R-E-S-P-E-C-T!


  1. I really liked how you gave practical steps to what respect translates to.

    Great post!
    Be blessed!

  2. I'm also doing the challenge. I liked your list. Making your husband a priority is what hit me and that was why I decided to do this challenge.

  3. Oh boy - I confess this one is a challenge for me. Great post...but such a hard place to start for me on a Monday morning:) But I did get a bit of chuckle with my R-E-S-P-E-C-T flashback!! Have a great Monday!

  4. Hello! I'm participating in the Completing Him Challenge, too! May God Bless Your Marriage as you seek to respect your husband today!

    Homemaker Honey

  5. GREAT list!!! We see that a good marriage takes some hard work - but boy is it worth it! Thanks for being such a good rolemodel!!

    Much Love,

  6. I'm here from Women Living Well Completing Him Challenge this week. I am so glad that I came.

    This IS an awesome way to break it down - with this list of HOW to respect our husbands. I'd like to link to this post from my blog on a permanent basis. If you don't mind?

  7. Love the suggestions you made for showing respect to our husbands. And great point about leaving a legacy for our children.

  8. Praying for God's richest blessings on your marriage!

  9. I like how you specifically listed out how you hope to work on showing your love to your beloved. I pray you seek the Lord in all things and that you enjoy growing in this area of your life. *smile* Sincerely, Mommy of two little blessings & so much more!

  10. Great post and I love how you gave simple steps and suggestions. Thanks for sharing...Have a bless week!!!

  11. Okay, I've been seeing a lot of this Completing Him challenge, and I wish I would have read up on it sooner.

    First time here, I like your blog!

  12. As a man, this looks very accurate. And for the ladies: My wife tells me she feels more satisfied when she respects me more. That's the way God works right? “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” ~Martin Luther


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