Marriage Monday - What's Your Role?

A book that was read many years ago popped into my mind. A sweet friend could use an encouraging word about the struggles that marriage brings sometimes. I found the book and decided to skim through it. It was covered with highlighted quotes that were pretty powerful! The chapter that was marked the most was on "A Wife's Role".

Women play a variety of roles but to zoom in on the role we have been given in God's Word, we are to be helpers. Helper means "to provide what is needed or lacking". Before our minds drift to recalling all that is lacking or why the man in our lives needs us!!, this is a fulfilment of God's call on the husband's life as well as the wife. When a woman takes an active and supportive position as a wife, she enables her husband to become all God created Him to be and in the process, God accomplishes His purposes and plan for them as a couple. The roles of husband and wife are different and to work, to move together as one they need to be bring differences into the marriage - not better than or less than, but different, made to compliment each other. When a woman realizes that she has been designated as the helper by God Himself, she can begin to sense the uniqueness and specialness of her calling. Perhaps we are most like the Father when we obey and follow His directions and serve through our roles as helper.

Here is an interesting list from the book. An assignment was given to read and pray through this list every day for a week.

Seven Affirmations of a Perfect Helper

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for God chose me out of all the women in the world especially for him.

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for I share his hopes and dreams and bear his hurts and frustrations along with him.

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for I bring him before God's throne in prayer every day.

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for I encourage and comfort him in strategic moments.

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for I put his physical and emotional needs ahead of my own.

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for I love him unconditionally.

I am the perfect helper for my husband, for I enable him to become all God wants him to be and I assist him in accomplishing God's purposes.

Reminding ourselves of the power of our role, can bring a beauty and blessing to our marriage! Following God's plan makes a great difference!

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