Are You Approachable?

In John Maxwell’s Winning With People, he says good relationships are the foundation for achievement. Relationships are more than just the icing on the cake in life: They are the cake—the very substance we need to live successful and fulfilling lives.

As Christians, we are called to be Christ like in behavior and in Scripture commanded to 'love one another.' Jesus set the example of loving others before us. Not only did He love us enough to die for us, but we see through the Bible many accounts of Him sharing and loving those around Him.

People miss incredible opportunities to connect with others because they do not make themselves approachable. This has been a hindrance for me. Due to insecurity and fear, I hold back and allow the other person to lead. But, often times the other person is feeling the same way! Someone has to go first! Even if we're not ready to instigate fellowship, we can be approachable.

Here are seven characteristics of an approachable person.

– Personal warmth. Approachable people truly like people and generate personal warmth toward the people they meet.

– Appreciation for the differences in people. Approachable people appreciate people for who they are and what they have to offer.

– Consistency of mood. Approachable people are even-keeled and predictable. You know what you’ll get because they are basically the same every time you seen them.

– Sensitivity toward people’s feelings. They tune in to the moods and feelings of others, and then adjust how they relate to them.

– Understanding of human weaknesses and exposure of their own. Approachable people are honest about their abilities and shortcomings.

– Ability to forgive easily and quickly ask for forgiveness.

– Authenticity. Approachable people are real. They engage with others on a genuine level.

These are some small things that when practiced can make a big difference. Will you join me in becoming one who is more approachable?

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