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Fix Her Up....Five Minute Friday


I have a sister in law who can fix anything. Give her a home improvement project and she dives in headfirst and stays with it through completion. No detours or roadblocks stop her, she keeps at it until it is finished.  I married into a family of 4 boys who are all self sufficient and able to perform household repairs independently. The family I was raised in always called someone in to do any home projects. Do it yourself projects were foreign to me when I got married, but the value of being able to fix things quickly became clear. 

I am the opposite of my sister in law. Home projects or repairs terrify me. Identifying and problem solving are just too overwhelming, take too much time and effort. Now, people fixing - that is a different story and  is something I can get into! 

With people, a problem area or character flaw can be quickly identified and often, I have a remedy ready! When situations are shared, my mind can quickly find a solution that would help fix the issue. With a natural bend to help others, 'fixing them' seems like the most helpful thing to do.  Except - you truly cannot 'fix' anyone. 

Each of us are a magnificent and unique creation, designed divinely by God with traits, talents, gifts and equipped with a purpose. In God's plan of relationships, He ordained a divine flow - love God first and love others next. 

Mark 12:30,31 “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’  There is no commandment greater than these.

We love God because He first loved us. He loved us when we had no idea of the depth of His love. He didn't look at us through the lens of improvement - seeing our flaws and the areas that needed fixing. He loved us and knew as we began to love Him, His fullness would make the changes that were needed.

In Ephesians 3 is a beautiful prayer ..."that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love,  may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height, to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

The desire to fix others will always be in my heart. But again, in God's Word, a divine order is found. We are to fix our eyes on Jesus - "Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith..."  If we seek to fix our eyes on Jesus, He is the one who can fix, mend, heal and restore us. We will never be perfect this side of heaven, but as we trust Him to make the changes in us, His love fills us and spills out into others. Fixing others or wanting to make changes in their life fades as the light of God's truth shines in our heart. Only God can fix us and fix others, but there is nothing the flow of His love cannot do.



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  1. Amie WillsJanuary 22, 2021 at 1:05 PM

    As I thought about the word "fix" for writing today, I remembered a show I saw many years ago when a premature child was born to Christian parents. They announced to their other children that she was perfect. It didn't seem right at first, until I realized they saw her as God saw her. Yes, she would face some health challenges, but she didn't need to be "fixed" in the way that I perceived her. How beautiful to know that for all our flaws, God doesn't want to fix us. He wants to love us and be loved in return.

    Amie, FMF #25

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  2. More Fruit Less NutsJanuary 22, 2021 at 2:15 PM

    Only God can fix us and others, so true ❤ visiting from fmf #4

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  3. Barb HJanuary 23, 2021 at 10:55 PM

    We can't fix anyone. Our job is to pray for them and adjust our attitude if God chooses to handle things in a way that you would not have chosen.

    Stopping by from FMF #43

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  4. AndrewJanuary 27, 2021 at 2:10 PM

    I have an arcane character
    with lots and lots of flaws,
    a hooligan inheritor
    with scant respect for laws,
    and this has cause my dear wife grief,
    for she's an ordered sort,
    and it beggars her belief
    that I will merely snort
    and go beyond No Trespassing
    because the path looks cool,
    and will not stand for harrassing
    from someself-righteous fool
    who thin ks that I am just a knave
    to be commanded to behave.

    #1 at FMF this week. Or, last week, really.

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